I don't have kids yet. But when I think about them (especially my little girl that will be born in the spring), I think about how I will parent them. Will I be too strict? Not strict enough? This always leads me to think about entertainment. Magazines, TV, movies. It will all affect them in profound ways. Take movies, for example. How do we decide what is appropriate for our children? For that matter, how do we decide what is appropriate for ourselves?
A few years ago I decided that I was going to be a "discerning movie goer." I decided that rather than avoiding every movie that was rated PG-13 and above, I would see most movies, but do so with a two-fold purpose: (1) Be entertained and (2) Learn about life, culture and the world. That is what I hope to teach my kids. Yes, be entertained, but be discerning, too.
I hear people say that they watch movies to "get away." That is, they use the movie medium to escape their own reality and live in another one. To me, that means they "check out" and I think that is harmful. When we check out, we stop looking out for ourselves. When we check out, we fail to see how what we are watching affects our culture and then use that information to shape it for good. When we check out, I think that we are unable to, as Paul says, "Do all to the glory of God," (1 Cor. 10:31). It is usually the case that when you have decided to use movies purely for your own enjoyment, you will eventually watch anything.
What about the other side of the coin? Many think we should engage this medium in a very strict, controlled way. They would say that the movies we watch should reflect our Christian values. That means avoiding movies like "Harry Potter," "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind," and "The Golden Compass." Or, sadly, it means cutting a movie up, removing any harsh language or sexuality. I understand this point of view. However, it seems to me to be too extreme and, much of the time, is based out of fear.
As with most the things, the extremes are not where we should live. We should, to the best of our ability, use movies to engage those who do not yet know Jesus. That is why I try and be a discerning movie goer. I watch everything with a careful eye and ask myself what makes the movie, a scene or a simple piece of dialog important. What does this have to do with my life? What is this movie trying to say? Does it reflect a very narrow opinion or something much of the world believes?
We must not forget that movies are there for our enjoyment, too. But we can have discerning joy. What makes this movie good/bad? Can you follow the plot? is the cinematography and editing good? Did I like it?
Something that helps me in this process is reading what mainstream critics are saying. Also, though their arrival seems a few years late, there are some excellent Christian movie reviewers. To me, the best Christian movie reviewer is a guy named Jeffery Overstreet at Christianity Today Movies. He, as well as others there, deftly and discerningly watch and review most movies, bridging the gap between culture and Christianity. Their reviews are usually insightful, thought provoking, and illuminating, helping you understand movies in a Christian context. Beyond that, at the end of each review they detail what, if any, language, violence, or sexuality is in the film so you and your family can decide if it is right for you and/or your kids.
Movies are amazing. Who knows if they affect the culture more than they reflect it. Whatever the case, they should be viewed with a purpose in mind. Enjoy them. Discern them. Give God glory. I hope my kids benefit from that.